Over time I’ve come to understand that working with me is a little different from anything you have known before. Coaching is different and coaching using Neuro-linguistic programming is most definitely different. So, here are a few points that will help you in the process.
I don’t work with everyone. Two reasons, one because our values may not align and two because they are not ready yet. Yup, sounds technical, but it isn’t really.
One of the most essential values needing to be present is honesty. Being honest with yourself and honest with me. I too have to be honest and if you are not the client for me, I will say. Sometimes being honest is less easy to do and I can help you work on that.
For change to occur you have to follow my instructions. If this doesn’t happen then you are not a client and I can’t work with you. Why? because you won’t get the result you want. Now, as we grow up there are times when we just don’t want to follow instructions and I get that. I also get that, given the right motivation following instructions can be easy!
The person being coached has to want the change and be ready to change. It is possible for things to change, for positive things to happen.
What I do and say is done consciously (that means I think about it). So as a client, you just need to follow my instructions and if you are not the client being coached (for example you are paying) you still have to follow my instructions. That can be a tough one for parents too, because sometimes they think they know best, which yes sometimes they do and sometimes, maybe less so.
I’m bound by confidentially ( that means I have to keep things private) and I’m also bound by processes such as safeguarding ( rules about keeping young/vulnerable people safe). So, if something is disclosed to me where another is at risk of harm, then I have a duty to report it.
Technical bit- I have what is known as an Enhanced DBS- this can be viewed online by request. This basically shows you I’ve never been in trouble with the police.
With regards to confidentiality, I will not discuss the session with anyone else unless the person being coached asks me to and then I will only do so If I think it’s in their interest to do so or if it falls under safeguarding.
There will be work to do in between sessions. The purpose of this is to help create forward movement and also to install a new habit. We are working with the brain, to get the brain to do things in a new way and we need to educate it. It’s easy work, and fun too; usually based on things you like.
I use a variety of models and techniques to help the person achieve the goal that they desire. It’s a forward-movement process where we don’t necessarily talk about the problem a lot. This is great because many people don’t want to keep talking about the problem. Many people have had enough of talking about the problem. Sometimes a young person does want to talk, and that’s ok too.
It’s a do-with process, not a do-to process. So, if you are not going to do the process, then you are not a client.
The session is important so we do not have interruptions. If you are paying for the session and are not the client and need to talk to me, then please arrange a time outside of the session to have a chat.
Mobile phones! Have you noticed how accessible we are today? Well, not in the hour spent with me. The phone is on silent, please. Session over Zoom? No email alerts on, no interruptions, and all focus needs to be in the room.
If you are an employer and you are wanting me to work with one of your team, then you both need to buy into the process. The environment for change has to be present and if it is not, then change won’t occur.
It may be also beneficial for me to work with other team/family members so that they can have a space where they can talk and learn new ways of supporting you.
Hopefully, this will give you a picture of how I work and how we can work together. Any questions just get in touch and ask away.
Best wishes, Lucy
